At age 14 Cecilia sent a letter to ”Okej” (a music magazine for teenagers) seeking contact with other bisexual 14-year-old girls. She got 20 replies from girls in Småland, Dalarna and Norrland… The letters could be despairing, humourous, romantic but common for all of them was their deprivation of contact.
MY: >> Tell them? When am I to tell them? No, never! Do you know how big my family is? My mum has six brothers, my dad has two brothers. Everyone has at least two children, and then the wives, and granny and granddad and a couple of their friends. All of them gather. Am I to get up in front of 40 people and say:
”Well, I’d just like to tell you I’m gay”… I can’t possibly do that. It’s fucking awful!<<
JOPPE: >> I haven’t told my parents yet, although I think they know, because I’ve had girlfriends. I’m almost sure my parents have seen us kiss. I was also going to tell them why I had the camera, but I haven’t been able to, and I don’t know why. But they presumed I had it for school purposes, and I just didn’t feel like telling them the truth.<<
NATALIE: >> The first time I ever kissed a girl, it felt like…it was as if… Wow, this is what kissing should be like! Everything sort of fell into place and I felt: this is right for me!”<<
Synopsis
”Du ska nog se att det går över” (Don’t you worry, it will probably pass) is a feature-length documentary about three teenage outsider girls’ desires, forbidden feelings and fears.
It is also a deeply personal film as it tells the story of director Cecilia Neant-Falk’s own life and the common experience shared by of all teenagers who discover that their feelings maybe, but only maybe, mean that they are bi- or homosexual.
”Everybody has a problem, but I have an extra burden. That’s the way it is” (MY, one of the interviewees in the film)
The interviewees in ”Don’t you worry, it will probably pass” was contacted through the same ad that Cecilia Neant-Falk had put in ”Okej” more than 10 years ago. They are all different in temperament, interests and background. Most of them live in a Swedish provincial towns or small communities. When the film starts, they still haven’t told ”it” to their friends and parents. The camera works as a secret video diary where feelings and thoughts about identity are documented. The girls themselves film sequences with parents, siblings and schoolmates in order to give a background and understanding of the values of the family.
”Don’t you worry, it will probably pass” was recorded during four years, and is the result of a unique project with material straight from the darkest corners of the teenage closet. My, Joppe and Natalie locked the door, turned on the camera and revealed everything. About mum and dad who know nothing, about the science teacher who says homosexuals have a genetic flaw, about living in a community where everyone knows everything about everything and everyone. About ”Fucking Åmål”, but for real! About growing up as a gay spy in a straight world.
The film is a bold collage of techniques and media, such as DV-cam, old archive footage and Super 8 accompanied by a huge soundtrack of artists like Stina Nordenstam, Ani Di Franco and Eva Dahlgren. The onlooker is invited into a varied teenage scenery of fear, anger, alienation, and above all courage and desire. It’s about having confidence in your own will and sense. To take it seriously even when it means defying those around you and their conventions.
A Truthful Account of the Teenage Generation
FIPRESCI – Fédération Internationale de la Presse Cinématographique
International Federation of Film Critics
